Yeah, I understand an initial sadness and confusion, because I used to believe that way too. I get it. My parents sat me down about a year ago and we had a similar conversation ("We didn't see this coming, what's going on?" that type of thing). It was much more respectful, it did not devolve into shouting, and my parents and Sean left with a clearer understanding of each other.
Even Sean and Christi have gotten into religious debates before, and Christi asked me to absolve her of any responsibility for my soul. I told her that everything she knows about Christianity, I know too, and there's nothing she could say that would be new to me, and basically told her she could sleep easy. I know the emotions involved, and I know it sucks.
My thing is, Sean and I have been together for almost two years now, and he brings all this up now? In front of Nicole and her new (Christian) boyfriend? And he wasn't just bringing up concerns, either, he was trying to make me feel guilty. I got the feeling he wanted me to apologize for something, because he kept saying things like "what really pisses me off is...." And I just....
I have no patience for this anymore, especially at this stage of our relationship -- both me and Sean, and me and my brother. He's trying to control me, just like he always has, and he's upset that quoting the Bible doesn't do that anymore. (Though to be fair, I was always better at weaponizing the Bible than he was)
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Date: 2016-06-16 02:18 pm (UTC)Even Sean and Christi have gotten into religious debates before, and Christi asked me to absolve her of any responsibility for my soul. I told her that everything she knows about Christianity, I know too, and there's nothing she could say that would be new to me, and basically told her she could sleep easy. I know the emotions involved, and I know it sucks.
My thing is, Sean and I have been together for almost two years now, and he brings all this up now? In front of Nicole and her new (Christian) boyfriend? And he wasn't just bringing up concerns, either, he was trying to make me feel guilty. I got the feeling he wanted me to apologize for something, because he kept saying things like "what really pisses me off is...." And I just....
I have no patience for this anymore, especially at this stage of our relationship -- both me and Sean, and me and my brother. He's trying to control me, just like he always has, and he's upset that quoting the Bible doesn't do that anymore. (Though to be fair, I was always better at weaponizing the Bible than he was)